Through Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT), I assist couples who are either in crisis or experiencing difficulties and challenges in their relationship that they find difficult to handle on their own. These issues may include communication problems, arguments, blending families, or a loss of emotional or sexual connection.

Couples therapy is also beneficial for those facing major crises such as loss, illness, or infidelity. Learn to understand conflicts in your relationship, and with increased awareness, become better at addressing frustrations before they escalate.

An EFT (Emotionally Focused) couples therapist can guide partners through a process that helps them either stay together or part ways in a healthier manner.

IMPORTANT ABOUT EFT Method:

The EFT model views couples therapy as consisting of three dynamic phases, each with well-defined processes and interventions. The therapist always has a "map" indicating where the couple is in therapy and where they need to go to progress. While the therapist meets the couple where they are at the moment, there is an underlying structure and process gradually leading the couple toward a more secure attachment. Be prepared to enter a joint process where the therapist acts as a process consultant and the relationship's "ambassador."

• Phase 1 involves identifying the couple's negative patterns, providing greater understanding and calmness.
• Phase 2 focuses on supporting the couple in feeling how they can repair conflicts, re-engaging the withdrawn partner and softening the pursuing partner. The couple experiences significant improvement.
• Phase 3 consolidates the new behavior, allowing the couple to interact with the newfound knowledge and independently repair breakdowns.

Research shows that empathy, understanding, and learning to see the world from the other's perspective create fertile ground for reopening and allowing love to flow freely again.

New challenges in relationships:

• Becoming parents – Shifting focus and dynamics immediately occurs when having children. While the attachment between you and the child is crucial, it's important to remember and nurture your relationship.
• Illness/Death – If a partner is affected by illness or a death in the immediate family, it will alter your relationship. There are many considerations, and it can be challenging for both the affected and the caregiver to discuss needs and thoughts.
• Secrets – Hidden issues may surface, creating an invisible barrier between partners. Therapy can support addressing secrets, releasing tension, and dealing with the repercussions in the relationship.

The purpose of couples therapy is to establish a strong collaboration around your attachment and emotional needs. The process includes exercises, video clips, and individual clarification sessions. A complete course with the best results and integration of new experiences typically lasts between 18-22 sessions.

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